Who is MJ?

One of my nicknames is MJ, and I live in New Zealand.

Okay, but like, this entire blog is my “about me” so if you’ve read any of my posts, you probably already have a fair idea. If I was to summarise, I’d say something like:

sepia photo of mj as a toddlerI’m thirty-something, making me born in the ’80s but a ’90s kid by heart. I was assigned female at birth, and after a lot of wrangling with gender identity throughout my life (I’ve never been “girly” and when I look in the mirror, I see a person rather than a “woman”), I’ve come to use she/her pronouns for convenience and identify as a woman for feminist reasons. I’m a Pākehā, which is to say New Zealand European, white, and of mainly British descent. I’m bisexual, or queer, and monogamously married to my best friend of 18 years. We live a childfree life in Auckland with our kitty furbabies. Much of my time is spent running my boutique online sex toy store, but my hobbies also include herbalism, reading, writing, tarot, spending time with my nephew, volunteering and educating.